Glad to hear that your toad has calmed down.

The reason it's not dropping water on you so much any more is that it's getting used to being in captivity. It's a defense mechanism they use to startle a predator in the wild. As for sexing it, you should take some photos of the toad and post them. Also, check if it has large thumbs (they may be dark colored). If so then it is a male.

Do not feed it with other amphibians. That's a sure fire way to pass on disease and parasites.