Thank you for your comforting words everyone, I really appreciate it. My other little guy is looking ok, he was nice and plump when I got him. Bitty(My surviving WTF) ate 2 supplement dusted wax worms the day I got him home by tong. Since then he has not eaten by tong I don't push it because I'm afraid I will cause him too much stress. I hope that with patients and time he will warm up to the tongs again.