Quite a daughter you have! If she wants a spider you should give it a try yourself, try to have it on your hand...... You know defeating your fears kinda thing Have been in the same shoes a bit over a year ago. Mine for her 8y bday wanted tarantula and i didnt exactly had a fear for them, but it wasnt something i would ever wanted to have in a house or near me. Long story short, she got her tarantula and i got mine a few month after lol.