Very well done George, I enjoyed and agree with your post entirely.
At the end of the day, you do need other peoples experience in keeping anything and none of us can say that they have have never looked up information prior to purchasing any species, if they did then I would be incredibly worried about how they maybe caring for their animals. Like George did say, you can't be an efficient and caring keeper without the information with how to care for the animals that you plan to look after.
Some of the best information you could use in the care requirements of any animal is, looking into the habitats they come from in the wild (BBC Weather covers a lot of places with Rainfall and Temperatures etc). Even then, for Mantella some of the information out there from "Experts" is second to none and taken from Wild encounters and studies of the animals which yet again, is perfect information to use.
However, I still would never agree with mixing and anyone that says that mixing has worked out for them have merely had the luck of the draw, not one individual is the same and some species react differently to others in any given situation that is presented to them. For example, mixing Mantella expectata and Mantella aurantiaca seems completely illogical in my opinion in the respect that both species require completely different habitat requirements (in the aspect of Humidity, Temperature, Substrate etc etc etc).
Mantella expectata for example is a arid dwelling species which require a temperature of approximately 23-28'c with a partially Sandy Substrate of a 60/40 % Ratio (Soil/Sand) with minimal Humidifying given them a choice of Damp or Dry substrate and from personal experience (and experience taken from others) I have encountered them more in the drier part of their enclosures not the damper parts. One of their localities is the Isalo Massif, the exact same location which Scaphiophyrne gottlebie is found, the Burrowing frog which hides more than 9 months of the year through times of drought
Mantella aurantiaca on the other hand is a Swamp dwelling species requiring much lower temperatures of about 18-23'c (Maximum temperature as that on a permanent basis) with temperatures higher than that for extended periods of time it causes muscle spasms (which I have witnessed first hand with individuals from other keepers) which is potentially fatal.
That alone shows that they are really and logically incapable of being compatible and just because they have been successful so far, doesn't mean it shall remain such or be the same for someone else. It is all down to the keeper at the end of the day and if the "Experts" or what I like to call them "Experienced" People keep species at very good standards which are appropriate to the species, what's wrong with following in their foot steps?
Keeping something to the sufficient husbandry standards that they require should not just be for breeding purposes but a permanent basis that is going to promote the health and well-being of the individuals in accordance to the Five Animal Needs (DEFRA has pretty much got the Freedoms into every aspect of the animal industry not just the Farming side of things.) I keep Mantella in assorted size exhibits but with each exhibit, the dimensions as based upon how many individuals are housed in such as enclosure (I keep trios of different bloodlines separate so I know which individuals are which).
I think this subject is a very touchy one and on this thread it has been debated both respectfully and maturely, but pointed towards the users first post; If you have to ask whether you can mix something or question it, you clearly aren't experienced, confident or knowledgeable enough to do so. So keeping them separately is both logical and safe, in respects to the keeper/hobbyist getting a decent night sleep and not having to worry about the possibility to waking up in the morning to deceased individuals. AT the end of the day, if it went wrong completely because someone decided to go with any information that a "perceived expert" has suggested, it would be the suggested party responsible for that. As experienced keepers, it's surely our duty in providing efficient and factual information on both history and husbandry requirements of the species in question.