I have had experience with both of these animals, and as I am someone who has to be able to handle their animals at least a little bit I understand where you are coming from. African fat tails are probably the way to go for you, you can handle them more without them becoming stressed and they are easier in their care than the White's. But if you are willing to limit yourself with handling and are open to a little more maintenence, White's are very rewarding pets with funny little personalities. Hope that helps!