Harsh words = no help!!

[flybyferns]

I have seen several threads when some one has come to frog forum for help and then another person will respond harshly on the public site instead of sending their response via PM. The only reason people are here is because they truly love the amphibians and are seeking advise from experienced people instead of all the conflicting information on the web. And also to share in their wonderful experiences they with their amphibians. Yes it's very sad when some one loses a friend because of mis-information, and it's very frustrating to those who read it, but more so the person who lost their frog or toad because of ignorance on their part!?! Think about how they feel! Next time you want to respond in a not so positive way please PM the person. My concern is that if someone is in need they won't look for help here and isn't that what community is about, helping those in need?

Oh !!! I can't bear it . I have to chime in- with my acknowledgment to and respect for Frog Forum.

I have (several times) been taken back by a reply to a post. I have logged off thinking I will NEVER go back. Maybe it’s just me; I’m sensitive. I have tried very hard , personally to “get along”, if you will ?

There is a pull here for ME though. It is John. ( and frogs hehehe ) Read his posts ; he never sounds like this !!! Have respect for the founder of this forum! It’s that simple!!

Everyone has heard people disagreeing. Sometimes it sounds funny and sometimes it sounds merely unpleasant; but whatever it sounds like, I believe we can ALL learn something very important from LISTENING to the kind of things (FF members) say to each other. They say things like this: 'How'd you like it if anyone did the same to you?' or “You are wrong” !

What is interesting about remarks like this is that the person who makes them is merely saying that the other person’s behavior does not happen to please them! Unfortunately, some NEVER reply. Sadly, the just go away

AND we ALL know who these members are

Right or Wrong ?- “ The Law of Right and Wrong” aka “the Law of Nature”
These reactions are human nature. But remember, if you leave a fellow FF member unsupported ( in any way ) in mid-air, they will fall like a stone.

I hope you will not misunderstand what I am trying to say. I am not trying to preach, and I do not make believe I am better than anyone else here. I am only trying to call attention to a fact; the fact that this year, or this month, or, more likely, this very day, we have failed conduct ourselves in the way we should have.

Lynn

[wesleybrouwer]

To be completely honest, i did not read trough all of the posts entirely

But i think that it's just the way someone takes the advice.
I don't see much extreme harsh answers around frogforum.
Telling someone that they are keeping the frogs wrong or whatever, in my opinion, isn't ment to be rude, but to educate.
If this may only be done trough PM, there isn't anything to learn from the mistakes others make.
Maybe someone else reads the advice, and will see the way they are keeping their pets is wrong.
When taking action to this, you may just prevent another frog dying.
You simply can't expect everybody is just cheering you up, encouraging to take a new frog, when it is clearly something that could've been avoided in the first place.

Now there are lots of petstores providing incomplete, incorrect or just no info at all.
But then again, it's the responsibility of the person buying an animal, to know at least what the basic care is.
What i do see a lot, is people start asking questions when it's to late.
Now you may think "it's just a frog", but when you let a puppy die because of neglectency, i bet it's a different story?
Not in my opinion. If you descide to take care of a pet, you have to do everything in you're power to make sure it gets the best care possible.
Going about a forum telling your dog died because you did not know it needed something different then cabbage won't give you people telling you their sorry for you're loss either.

Not to be harsh or anything, but i hope you do reccon were taking responsibilty of a live that can't take care of it's own