Harsh words = no help!!

[ViperJr]

I'm done with this...........you just aren't getting it.

To be honest, I'm not sure that it's that I don't get you, as much as it's you not getting me. Perhaps, it's a mix of both.

I suggest using the PM system for negative responses.

I understand what you are saying, but if the forum is supposed to be "positive" responses alone, it's not going to be much of a forum and no discussion at all. Unless you're talking about being simply mean/rude without any help at all, and if that's the case, it should not be PMed at all, but rather left out all together.

Alright guys. Let me lay it down for you. The point is (PUBLIC HUMILIATION AND RIDICULE!) She is trying to stop this by having your fights and scoldings done through PM rather than out where everyone can see and read it. What she is saying makes perfect sence and you all are arguing for nothing. All points aside its obviously getting nowhere. Some thing should be better done in private.

Now I'm no stranger to "giving what for" to those who have bad husbandry due to lack of research and diliborate abuse of their animals for their amusement or because they saw it on YouTube. The point is that we want members and guests to come back and stay here not leave because someone was overly harsh. There is a right way to say they did wrong by their pet publically without truely offending the person.

Believe me I know first hand.

"PUBLIC HUMILIATION AND RIDICULE" is of course not good. "fights and scoldings" should be done by PM, I agree. But I was not talking for any of those things, and I'm pretty sure wasn't Poly either. We both agreed with kueluck, tgampper and Jenste on that point. What we really said was this: "There is a right way to say they did wrong by their pet publically without truely offending the person", which you said yourself. Everyone agrees that it's bad to just flame someone. So, I find your "you all are arguing for nothing" strange, since we basically said the same thing, you, me and Poly (on that subject).