View Poll Results: How does your SO/Family really feel about your hobby?

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  • As excited as I am – I have to share ownership!

    4 13.79%
  • Accepting – willing to lend a hand now and again

    11 37.93%
  • Grudgingly accepting - they like to look now and then, don't want to be involved

    9 31.03%
  • Indifferent - could care less about them, not for or against the hobby

    4 13.79%
  • Put up with it - - lets you do it but it is not their favorite choice of hobby

    4 13.79%
  • Tolerant to a point – you can do it but they are strict about # of tanks

    5 17.24%
  • Dislike it – wish you would get a new hobby but let's you have a tank or two

    1 3.45%
  • Hate it - - would be happy to see you give it up completely

    2 6.90%
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Thread: So....how accepting are your spouses/family about your hobby?

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    Default So....how accepting are your spouses/family about your hobby?

    Be honest!

    How does your Significant other / parents / siblings / friends (who ever you live with) REALLY feel about your hobby?
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    Default Re: So....how accepting are your spouses/family about your hobby?

    I picked two, tolerant to a point - my mom lets me have them in the house, but says absolutely no more tanks (we'll see about that one) and Grudgingly Accepting - they do all love the frogs and tanks that I have, but I most definitely do all the work and they are MY frogs.
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    My girlfriend, whom I live with, share my passion of reptiles and amphibians! The REFT tank is ours, which we've set up together and payed equally for it. Our mourning gecko where her initiative as well.
    So, I can't ask for more! It's perfect

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    Default Re: So....how accepting are your spouses/family about your hobby?

    My fiancee doesn't mind it. She's not too big on my amphibians but she's definitely warmed up to them.

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    Default Re: So....how accepting are your spouses/family about your hobby?

    Everyone i know is really cool with it, my Dad & Brother are quite willing to care for my FBT's, Mum wont feed them if im away but she enjoys watching them and talking about them. All my friends like them, but i surround myself with animal lovers. I guess amphibians aren't really my hobby, Rodents are, which every one is also very accepting off ... they even put up with my walking hay and other beddings all over the house.

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    Yeah...Im not so lucky in this category. I have to sneak them. Paying cash is a good way. That's why I buy a lot of frogs locally. I try to use cashiers checks so it can't be tracked. If I use paypal I gotta have it say Auto parts on the email. If I write emails its better to have them in code. For example, "Your Calvin Klein BLUE JEANS will be ready for pick up in October." My daughter sometimes rats me out. You're at the airport and Lacey whispers" Mommy has frogs in her carry on." So yeah...I can't add any more frog tanks beyond my frog closet. The frogs on my desk at work had to be part of a negotiation for a new car. "You get a new car I get frogs on my desk at work". It all works out.
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    My husband is ok - - he knows I absolutely love my tanks but every now and then he puts his foot down about me wanting another (whether tank/frog/species). . . lucky for me his mother (my mother in law) has fallen in love with frogs ever since adopting a few of my babies - So I have her on my side and she sometimes helps me win!

    Little negotiations help . . . like, OK - - I wanted to continue breeding but he didn't want me to spend more money on breeding/rearing tanks that we may not have room for down the road - - solution? Ok, I will use 30 gallon storage bins that can be drained, dried off, and stacked when needed!


    He has helped me out a few times, but mostly stays uninvolved, which is what he prefers. The times he helped were right after my fall - - he helped me do a waterchange once because I couldn't lift the bucket. Not even halfway done he is cursing and two days later he gave me a 50 foot python (water change hose!!) Another time was helping me with a frog who went on an adventure when I wasn't home - - he caught the frog, put it in shallow water like he knew to do and added "some" dechlorinator. Then he called freaking out because the frog had been on the floor and he had to touch it and didn't know what else to do.
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    I am lucky. My husband has liked my toads and now frogs. We look at things for the tank together. I siliconed rocks together today and he sat with me while I finished. My goal is to someday have a 125 gal tank with two waterfalls, two water areas with fish and three land areas with my tree frogs. He talks about how nice it will look.
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    Default Re: So....how accepting are your spouses/family about your hobby?

    Unfortunately i had to pick the last one I'm not lying

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    Default Re: So....how accepting are your spouses/family about your hobby?

    Quote Originally Posted by bshmerlie View Post
    Yeah...Im not so lucky in this category. I have to sneak them. Paying cash is a good way. That's why I buy a lot of frogs locally. I try to use cashiers checks so it can't be tracked. If I use paypal I gotta have it say Auto parts on the email. If I write emails its better to have them in code. For example, "Your Calvin Klein BLUE JEANS will be ready for pick up in October." My daughter sometimes rats me out. You're at the airport and Lacey whispers" Mommy has frogs in her carry on." So yeah...I can't add any more frog tanks beyond my frog closet. The frogs on my desk at work had to be part of a negotiation for a new car. "You get a new car I get frogs on my desk at work". It all works out.
    I love this! Maybe I should start a clearing website that will handle all your frog purchases and turn them into other merchandise receipts. I could make a fortune!
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    Default Re: So....how accepting are your spouses/family about your hobby?

    Quote Originally Posted by BG View Post
    Unfortunately i had to pick the last one I'm not lying
    sorry - I posted this poll on a couple forums and it is sad how many people choose that last option.
    72 Gallon Bow - ACF and GF tank.
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    Default Re: So....how accepting are your spouses/family about your hobby?

    I can't vote on this currently, being single, but my next SO is going to have to like animals, toads included!

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    Default Re: So....how accepting are your spouses/family about your hobby?

    My dad HATES the fact that I'm keeping a toad, he says I'm torturing it, but it's eating and drinking (well abrorbing) water, and it's growing, and I'm taking good care of it, so I'm pretty sure I'm good, but when I mention getting a Pacman frog, he was VERY skeptical... so yeah, I chose the last option... lol

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    Default Re: So....how accepting are your spouses/family about your hobby?

    Well my better half has no issues. I think she likes the Red Eyes better then I do. She is always looking at them! She feeds all the frogs when I can't and changes out the water bowls as needed.
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    1.1.0 Dendrobates Lamasi 'Orange'
    1.1.0 Dendrobates Ventrimaculatus 'Understory Line'
    0.3.0 Dendrobates leucomelas

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    Default Re: So....how accepting are your spouses/family about your hobby?

    Let's put it this way: my wife has (with some understandable reservations) agreed that when I finally get a tenure-track faculty position, I can have a small species of crocodilian. Frogs are, comparatively, no big deal.

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    Mine is good with it until I start building another viv. Then the Igloo is mentioned and we discuss winter ice out, WiFi shorting out in the Igloo as it melted in spring, and the funny looks the neighbors have seeing me feet sticking out the door, and then she gives in and is good with that til the house smells like silicone for two days :-)

    Oh, I have spent many a night in that Igloo.
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    Not sharing space w/ any H. sapiens at the moment but my mother and my sister are fighting over who gets to frog-sit and who gets to snake-sit while I'm gone for 2 wks in Sept. Of course, it would be easier for me if my mother would do both so that I didn't have to drive one or the other an hour south to my sister's. Apparently that's not "fair". Neither one realizes at the moment that the baby snake is still stuck on live pinkies
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    Default Re: So....how accepting are your spouses/family about your hobby?

    My husband tollerates the frogs, crabs and fish. He says we have to many tanks in the house. But he does want to build the larger terrerium for the whites. He is excited about that. He also likes to see Frogger eat out of the glass bowl. He thinks it is really cool. The kids own all the animals. I am just the zoo keeper, but I am pretty sure I am the one that really has the hobby.

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    Default Re: So....how accepting are your spouses/family about your hobby?

    The wife is tolerant to a point. Of course my 4 year old son loves the frogs.

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